How to Deal with Disappointment

Remember that job I told you all about? Well, I didn’t get it. Recovering from the disappointment and starting a new school semester has been difficult. In fact, I haven’t been blogging much lately because I’ve been both amazingly busy with the rush of students and I’ve been busy moping.

I’m not afraid to admit to you all that I cried when I found out that I lost the job to another applicant. I’m also not afraid to admit that I ate way too much and maybe drank a little too much that evening in the hopes that it would make me feel better. I didn’t feel better. I just felt bloated.

To cheer myself up on this rainy Monday morning, I made a quick list of things that I am happy about. I forced myself to write 20 items. It was difficult to write at first, because I love to be a pessimist. It’s just my nature of self-improvement, I suppose. But after the first couple of list items, it became much easier to think of things I am happy and thankful for. I have a wonderful life.

There will be more job opportunities in the future. In fact, I applied for one over the weekend. I can’t—I won’t let this get me down.

How do you fight disappointment in life? Let me know in the comments.

love,
melanie

7 thoughts on “How to Deal with Disappointment

  1. Jeff

    I think you did it just right. I would call it a “gratitude list.” When I’m disappointed that something didn’t go the way I wanted it to, after I pout a little (not the best reaction), then I think about what I’m grateful for in my life.

    1. lovelibrarianmelanie

      I suppose a “gratitude list” does have a better ring than a “things I am happy about list”!

  2. Wuangochi

    Oh goodness, I had to read this because I’ve spent a month moping. I just opened my eyes at what a shitty job I have and have become depressed… I eat to make me feel better but it doesn’t instead I’ve gained about 10 lbs. My body rejects my job, it hurts while I’m here… but I’m here because I have a job. Change will come and this is not forever. My happy/grateful lists goes a little like this: 1. I don’t have cancer (a co-worker was diagnosed) 2. I have my mother alive, both parents for that matter and both healthy as they can be 3. This job is not forever 4. I am alive 5. I can dance (I love to dance) … and of course the list goes on how my life is amazing. Oh yeah I live in California and “SINGLE”! 🙂

    I’m applying everywhere as well, everywhere I would love to live which right now is the Bay area. All the best on your job search.

  3. swanade

    Disappointment… I eat too much and hide in my house watching bad TV for hours on end trying to forget that the world exists. Sorry to hear about the job.

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